In the quest for eternal happiness we are often blind to the things that take it away from us or prevent us from having it. We get so caught up in our own lives and the people and things around us that we simply lose ourselves. By the end of the day, we realize that there were one too many things that zapped our happy gene today.
How did we let this happen, yet again? You already know what the triggers are yet you keep pulling them. The sooner you drop them, the sooner you will regain and reclaim your happiness, and keep it.
Here are 5 things destroying your happiness that you can eliminate from your life with a little effort.
Making situations or other people the cause of your problems is a quick trip to unhappiness. You will never be able to control awful things that happen to you or the actions of others.
However, you have control over yourself and your responses. Renowned air force pilot and religious leader Dieter Uchtdorf once said, “The older we get, the more we look back and realize that external circumstances don’t really matter or determine our happiness. We determine our happiness.” Happiness is a decision, and you can make it.
Sometimes you want others to pick up on your mood. You want them to know when you’re upset, when you want to be left alone, and when you need company. Nobody can do that. Expecting and then being disappointed will only make you unhappy.
And if you are going to assume, assume people are thinking the best of you. Communicate openly. And, believe it or not, you aren’t as big of a deal as you think you are; they are probably thinking about their own insecurities and not about you.
3.Being someone you’re not
It is not only exhausting and tiring, it also saps you all of sense of self worth. Putting on a phoney personality is never a good idea. Be yourself, but try to be the best version of you.
4.Living in another time
You can either get stuck in the past or the future. Hanging on to the past won’t bring it back, and waiting to be happy at some future date is just postponing the happiness you could have now.
If you wait to be happy until you finish school, get married or get a new job, your happiness will always be out of reach. Choose instead to be happy now. Life isn’t about finishing things but enjoying the moments. Don’t mourn the cookie that was eaten, and don’t wait until you’ve finished eating it to appreciate it; enjoy each bite in the moment.
5.Comparing with others
No two lives are ever the same. When we compare, we tend to compare only our shortcomings with the other person’s achievements. We forget to count our blessings, the millions of ways we are better off than others. So these comparisons are always unfavorable.